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Femi Fani-Kayode: The burden of love and the mystery of separation


Remember that Abraham could not prosper and find his calling until he was separated from LOT. God may well be doing a new thing in your life by throwing the garbage out and separating you from someone that you had once trusted and that you were once very close to, so grab that opportunity with both hands, move on, make new friends and enjoy the ride.

When two people that were once very close fall apart don’t be too eager to fix it or to come back together again simply because you may not be able to move to the next prophetic level of your life if you do.

God is in the business of removing stumbling blocks and the secret agents of the devil from the lives of His children so don’t complain when those you once loved begin to behave like water demons and dragons, begin to tell the most hideous lies and begin to manifest hatred towards you.

When that happens just hold your peace, smile, remain silent, have a little patience and wait and see their end.

There are some ”little foxes” that you just don’t need in your life when you are about to rise up so no matter how painful it is for two close people to go their separate ways the wise thing to do is to ”let go and let God”.

And when you do let go, be thankful for the moments you once had together and go forth in peace and with as little rancor and dissention as possible. For those that repay good with evil the bible says ”evil shall never leave their household”.

So don’t fight for yourself when you are wronged by ingrates and those you once helped, supported and assisted: instead let that powerful verse of scripture fight for you.

Always remember it and call it before God during your time of intercession and prayer by just saying the following words: ”those that have repaid my good with evil, evil shall never leave their household”. Stand on these powerful and precious words and have faith in the mystery and efficacy of the Holy Word of God knowing that scripture cannot be broken by any power in heaven, on earth or below the earth.

After that just hold your peace and no matter how long it takes, whether it is a few seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, years or decades, wait and see what happens. Always remember that ”God works in mysterious ways, His wonders to perform” and that vengeance is His. He will judge, He will reward and He will avenge.


Again remember Mr. Kayode Ola’s simple yet deeply profound words. He said, ”keep your head up. God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers”. No matter what you are going through, no matter who has hurt, cheated or betrayed you and no matter what your circumstances are learn to take the pain with dignity and to despise the shame, for it shall surely pass.

In order to escape rancor, betrayal and conflict try your best to avoid loud, vexatious, greedy and ungrateful people because no matter how much you do for them in their time of need they will never be satisfied. Worse still they will despise you for your generosity and compassion which they perceive as nothing but weakness and stupidity.

Helping such people is like conjuring up the Angel of Death, like invoking Abaddon, the spirit of destruction, and like trading with the grave: they can never be appeased or satisfied and they will always want more. Worst still the more you help them and the more you give, the more they will demand and the more they will hate you for it.

Finally always remember what Mr. Herbert Mensah, one of Ghana’s and indeed Africa’s brightest and best, once said: “never cry for someone who does not know the value of your tears”. This is wisdom.

Save your tears and sorrow only for those who love and appreciate you but never reject or treat with contempt those that genuinely care for you. This is because, generally speaking, human beings are fickle, unreliable and shallow and those that truly care are very few.

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